Saturday, November 17, 2012

The Little Woman

I joined the Army in 1974.  I thought I wanted to get as far away from home as possible and I did.  I flew from Seattle, Washington to Fort Jackson, South Carolina!  For wanting to get away from home I sure did a lot of crying on those flights.

Anyway, lots of good things happened to me in the Army.  I learned to be self sufficient and that I was capable of things I never thought I would be.  I learned confidence and leadership.  I met Dave, got married and had my first child.  Which brings me to one of the reasons I left the Army.  I really thought I wanted to be a housewife.  I didn't.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed being a wife and a mother.  HATED taking care of the house.  It bored me to tears.  I so admire women that can make a whole career out of house and home.  But I do not envy them.

So, I worked at whatever I could find at first.  Fast food, janitorial and then went to Dental Assistant school and worked at that for a few years.  Since Dave stayed in the Army we moved about every three years.  After the 3 kids got a little older and we would hit a new duty station the job search would take 2 or 3 months.  As a working out of the home mom I did pretty well.  No, we can't have it all or do it all, but like anything else we give it our best shot.  The only problem was the kids.  They didn't LIKE having me home.  Mom, didn't you find a job yet?  Sheesh!

Anyway, the point is I worked very hard to make a place for myself as DORIS Arnold and even though I love my husband I preferred that to being known as MRS. Arnold or "The Little Woman".

The kids grow up, move out and bless us with grandchildren.  We still worked at our respective careers and did well at them.  Well then, what is this all about?  I'm back to being "The Little Woman".

We stopped working, sold the house, moved into our 5th Wheel and most of the time I AM Doris, but down here in Texas working on the ranch as hands or managers or whatever you want to call it, we have reverted to traditional roles.
Dave's out riding the fence, running the tractors, BSing with the good ol boys and here I sit cooking 2 meals a day, cleaning house, watching TV and taking care of all the little things in the house.   ARRGGHHHH!  BUT, I'm enjoying it.



  1. Hey Doris. It's good to hear from you again.

    Where are you in Texas? We'll be in San Antonio again starting Dec. 18.

    Now we're in Australia having a bang-up time! So much beautiful scenery to explore.


  2. Funny how that happens. I am now a stay at home wife for the first time in over 20 years and am enjoying it!

  3. Not only do I hate housekeeping, I'm lousy at it! But, somehow, keeping house in an RV isn't so bad. More like "playing house" I think.

  4. Hello. Enjoyed your post. Being the daughter of a career Army man and the wife of an Air Force man, I never liked being referred to as, "the dependent". That always irked me! Where R U guys?

  5. Glad to hear you are enjoying yourself. I've always enjoyed being at home, just had to work while the kids were growing up. Cleaning our RV is not near as labor intensive as the house was. It's fun to get out the dust & see it shine again!


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